Marriage Customs

 

Human life in today's modern society is definitely more convenient compared to a century ago. Despite all the progress and advancements, people still hold on to their rituals and traditions. It's fascinating to learn about these customs from different countries. In this blog, I'll be sharing everything I've discovered and understood about this topic.

Spain

Let's talk about a marriage tradition in Spain. After exchanging rings, the groom places thirteen gold coins in the bride's hand, known as las arras. This act symbolizes their commitment to sharing everything - all the material possessions they will acquire together.

Turkey

This tradition is believed to bring good luck to the unmarried women and help them find a suitable partner. The bride will then toss her shoe over her shoulder, and whoever catches it is said to be the next one to get married. This playful custom adds an element of fun and excitement to the wedding festivities. The reception continues with toasts and speeches from family and friends, celebrating the newlyweds and wishing them a lifetime of happiness. The couple will often perform a traditional dance together, showcasing their love and unity to their guests. As the night goes on, the celebration becomes more spirited, with guests joining in on the dancing and merriment. The music gets louder, the food keeps flowing, and the atmosphere is filled with joy and laughter. Overall, this cultural wedding tradition is a beautiful and meaningful way to honor the bride and groom, bring families together, and create lasting memories for everyone involved. It is a time-honored custom that adds a special touch to the wedding day and creates a sense of unity and love among all who attend.

Tunisia

Tunisian weddings typically last for three days, sometimes even a whole week, with numerous guests joining in the festivities. Family and friends, including those who stay at the homes of the bride and groom, come together to celebrate. Each celebration is unique, reflecting the traditions of different regions and families, but one thing is for sure - it's always lively and joyful.

In  Tunisia, the marriage certificate is concluded in the presence of the notary or in front of the registrar in the presence of two witnesses. The religious wedding ceremony takes place either in the mosque or at the parents of the bride, in the presence of the Imman who consecrates the union.

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The Rich History and Enchanting Culture of Oman

Situated on the southeastern coast of the Arabian Peninsula, Oman is a country steeped in rich history and vibrant culture, rooted in the heart of Arabia. From its early settlement days and the rise of Islam to the influence of the Portuguese and its modern-day prosperity, Oman's story is as fascinating as it is diverse. In this article, we journey through the captivating heritage and culture that have shaped Oman into the intriguing country it is today.

1. Early Settlements and the Advent of Islam

Archaeological evidence indicates human habitation in Oman dating back to the Stone Age. But it was around 2000 BCE that Oman started witnessing the establishment of organized communities with trading links extending as far as Mesopotamia. The country was known for its production of copper and was an important part of the ancient maritime spice routes.The introduction of Islam to Oman in the 7th century AD significantly shaped the nation's cultural and historical trajectory. Omanis were among the first people to embrace Islam voluntarily, and since then, Oman has developed its own form of Islam known as Ibadhism, which preaches tolerance and moderation.

2. The Age of Exploration and Foreign Influence

In the 16th century, the Portuguese, attracted by Oman's strategic location as a trading hub, occupied parts of the country, particularly Muscat. However, the Omani people, under the leadership of Imam Nasir bin Murshid, eventually drove out the Portuguese in 1650, marking a new era of Omani expansion and prosperity.

3. The Al Said Dynasty and Modern Oman

In 1744, the Al Said Dynasty came into power with Ahmad bin Said as the first Sultan. Today, Sultan Qaboos bin Said Al Said, who assumed power in 1970, is credited with transforming modern Oman into a prosperous and developed nation while preserving the country's heritage and traditions.

Oman's Enthralling Culture

Oman's culture is a harmonious blend of traditional Islamic values and modern influences. Its traditions and customs are deeply rooted in the Islamic ethos, with a unique Omani flair characterized by hospitality, strong family ties, and respect for elders.

. Language and Dress

Arabic is the official language of Oman, and English is widely spoken. The traditional attire for Omani men is the dishdasha, a white robe, while women wear elaborately embroidered dresses known as abayas, often accessorized with gold jewelry.

2. Food and Cuisine

Omani cuisine offers a delectable blend of Arabian and Indian influences. Traditional dishes include shuwa, a slow-cooked lamb dish, majboos, a spiced rice dish, and harees, a wheat and meat porridge. Dates, a staple in the Omani diet, are typically served with kahwa, a traditional Omani coffee, as a gesture of hospitality.

3. Festivals and Celebrations

Religious and national celebrations play a significant role in Omani culture. The two major Islamic celebrations, Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha, are times of family gatherings and feasting. The Sultan's birthday, on November 18th, doubles as the country's National Day, celebrating Oman's culture, history, and modern development.

4. Music and Dance

Music and dance in Oman have been significantly influenced by East Africa, with traditional Omani music styles like Razha, performed with swords and sticks, and the lyrical sea-faring songs known as Shubani.

5. Art and Architecture

The country's architecture stands as a testament to its history, from the imposing forts and watchtowers that dot the landscape, remnants of a bygone defensive necessity, to the modern, marble-clad Sultan Qaboos Grand Mosque. Traditional Omani handicrafts, such as pottery, weaving, silverware, and woodwork, continue to thrive, offering a glimpse into the country's rich cultural heritage.

6. Bedouin Culture

While Oman has rapidly modernized, elements of traditional Bedouin culture endure, particularly in the country's interior and desert regions. The Bedouin values of hospitality and close-knit community life remain integral to Omani society, and traditional pursuits such as falconry, camel racing, and desert

7. Natural Environment

Oman's culture is deeply intertwined with its natural environment. From the turquoise waters of the Arabian Sea, home to traditional dhow sailing, to the soaring dunes of the Empty Quarter and the craggy peaks of the Al Hajar Mountains, Oman's diverse landscapes have played a significant role in shaping the lifestyle, occupations, and traditions of its people.

Oman, a land where ancient heritage harmonizes with modern life, provides a fascinating insight into a culture steeped in history. With its rich traditions, welcoming people, and captivating landscapes, it's a country that embodies the spirit of Arabia. As Oman continues to modernize and evolve, it does so with a respectful eye on its past, preserving its history and culture in the face of the new. It is this respectful balance that makes the Omani culture a true gem in the crown of Arabia.

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Verdant Hills & Rushing Springs

There are countless towns and villages in Turkey with a green hilltop named “Hıdır Tepesi,” which can be translated as the “Hill of Hıdır;” in reality it means “The Verdant Hill.” 

Hıdır, or Hıdr, comes from the Arabic word for green. There is virtually no difference between Hıdır, Hidr and Hizir in Arabic, for d and z are at times interchangeable. “Hıdırlık” is a short term for greenery or any open grassy land fit to serve as a playground for children or place to picnic. It also has a connection to Hızır (or Hıdr/Hıdır), a saintly person who appears unexpectedly for people in need, hence the term “Hızır gibi yetişmek (To come to somebody’s rescue like Hızır). Hızır is an immortal man who has drunk the water of life from the spring of immortality. Hıdrellez, the ultimate spring festival celebrated on the night of May 5 and the day of May 6th, also gets its name from the same word, or rather, the same saintly figure.

Hızır is a figure of great controversy. All agree the he is invisible and let’s himself be seen only when necessary. He appears and disappears at an instant. He is, in a way, like a spring that suddenly comes after a never-ending winter, just like this year. He is the one who is identified with greenness and water springs.
 There are some who associate the name also with Hydra, related to water. He is also believed to be the same person as St. George, another saintly green man in Christian culture. St. George is from the heart of Anatolia, from Cappadocia, with a Middle Eastern ancestry. In a way, it is normal to consider Hıdır St. George; usually, holy figures are swapped in between religions in this geography all the time.

As said, his sudden appearance, often in disguise of a beggar, or an elderly passerby, gives



a certain suspicion to his real personality. He will be there to guide you to the path to truth whenever necessary. If you treat him rightly, you’ll be rewarded with abundance and plenty. He’ll make your wishes come true, provided that you welcome him with a warm reception. Maybe it is the strong belief in his existence that lies beneath the unmatched Anatolian hospitality. It may be that all the peoples of this land dread the thought of missing an opportunity to meet the mighty and generous green man. That would be equal the skipping the chance of a lifetime, as he is believed to appear only once in a lifetime of a person.

But where is he and who is he? You’ll never know, at least not at the moment you see him. You can only realize that you’ve just encountered his existence after he disappears to an unknown destiny, never to come back again. He is omnipresent, yet invisible. Some say he only touches your faith when you’re truly and desperately in need. There is one condition: you have to be a completely honest and pure person. The integrity of oneself is the key to receive his blessing.

In some depictions, Hıdır wears a green coat or cloak. It is the same for hilltops named after him. These hilltops are probably at their greenest at Hıdrellez, the time to go out and celebrate nature. Hıdrellez also marks the only day when Hıdır meets Elias, his long lost pal. Elias (Elijah), or Ilyas in Turkish, is another saintly figure who represents the sea. Hıdır, the greenery (also meaning for the earth) meets the water, let it be the sea, lake, or rivers, on this particular day. The day of Hıdrellez gets its name from Hıdır and Elias; it is the day for the reunion of opposites, the marriage of the land and the sea.

As it signifies the time to wait for the verdant one, Hıdrellez is mostly about having fun. Feasting alfresco is its core, most often accompanied with music and dancing. Celebrating through the night of May 5th is almost obligatory, as one wishes lay underneath a rose tree or set sail on the waterfront at the crack of dawn. The night is spent dancing and jumping over bonfires in a camping spirit. Young girls wait for the love of their life to appear like Hızır, write down wishes for a happy future and secretly bury them under rose trees. If there is a waterside nearby, or rushing springs, all wishful youth will end the night there, watching the rise of the sun.

One never knows one’s own destiny; he (Hıdır or Hızır or the love of one’s life) might come at the most unexpected moment… Hıdrellez is mostly about mankind’s naivety of good will, so let’s not lose hope on nature and start celebrating spring (finally) with the greenest of spring tastes.

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Thistle fit for the throne

Owning a grand, impressive and imposing posture and a stately manner, the artichoke definitely has royal qualities. Totally dignified, the artichoke stands alone erecting its head as if to reach the sky. The artichoke plant is actually a thistle; a thistle that has transformed itself into the king of vegetables. Each artichoke plant seems to have sovereignty over a small territory, a mere meter diameter of land, with only one big artichoke growing in the center, the head artichoke which I like to call the king. Actually, each plant bears a few more artichokes, 6 to 12 in total, but most are pruned off to give power to the remaining few. In the field, that one big artichoke, the king, is flanked by a few smaller buds, like little princes waiting patiently for their time on the throne. A field of artichokes resembles medieval Europe, with each little kingdom guarding its own little patch of territory, each king artichoke marking its place proudly. Regal by all means, the artichoke is considered one of the most luxurious vegetables. It’s like a rags-to-riches story. Once a wild growing thistle, the artichoke is a descendent of the cardoon, the savage beauty of the Mediterranean terrain. It was first cultivated in the early Middle Ages by the Arab agronomists from the wild cardoon to the global artichoke, as we know today; in a way, like magic alchemy turning an awkward wild plant into festive golden taste. 
The artichoke we savor is actually the bud of the flower of the plant and what appears like a single big bulbous flower is actually a zillion flowerets all crowded on a saucer-like flowerbed, which we consume as the bottom artichoke. What makes the artichoke so luxurious is this ridiculously small yield of taste compared to the huge plant that grows to a height of 1.5-2 meters, spreading its leaves to an equal length of diameter. But it is also the taste that is unique; laced with unmatched finesse, containing a hint of bitterness contrasting with a fresh sweetness. The taste is an ultimately subtle yet complex flavor, best brought out with simple cooking techniques like boiling, braising or roasting. The virtue of the artichoke lies in this simplicity that can create so much finesse from so little. The artichoke has the capacity to make any dish fit for the throne. One outstanding fact about its history really does have an acquaintance with crowns. Marilyn Monroe, then an unknown starlet named Norma Jean, was crowned MissCalifornia Artichoke Queen in 1948, in Castraville, California. This crowning began her climb up the stairs to becoming the queen of stars of all ages. As I said, there is something magically regal about the once-thistle crown-like globe that truly belongs on the throne. 

Recipe of the Week
Whole fried artichokes appear like a golden crown adorning your plate and taste like jewels sparkling in your palate. Use very young, tender artichokes with the chokes still not developed. Snip the tips of the outer leaves if tough, if very tender leave them. Cut the stems off and smash each artichoke on the back so that the outer leaves open out like a sunflower. Remove any chokes or spiky inner leaves with a spoon or short paring knife. Fry in plenty of olive oil until golden-bronze. Drain excess oil putting fried artichokes heads down on paper towels. Sprinkle with salt and enjoy crispy leaves like chips, reserving the softened bottom for the triumphal final taste. 

Event of the Week
This week is a festive opportunity to celebrate artichokes. The “1st International Artichoke Festival” is having its kick start in Urla May 2-3, co-organized by the İzmir Metropolitan Municipality, the Urla Municipality, the İzmir University of Economics-Department of Culinary Arts and Management and last by not least volunteers and devotees of Urla. The town of Urla, ancient Vourlá, only 35 kilometers south of central İzmir, is the epicenter of artichoke production extending to the west along Karaburun Peninsula. The festival will tackle all aspects of the regal artichoke, from traditional cooking methods to modern chef interpretations, from health benefits to medicinal uses, from flavor and taste to pleasures of eye and artifice. There will be a series of events,check the website. I suggest you just drive in to find out what’s happening and you’ll be rewarded with the royal taste of the best of the best artichokes. 

Fork of the Week 
Another taste of Urla was recently crowned with a silver trophy in Italy. Olivurla, the sublime olive oil produced by Pelin Omuroğlu Balcıoğlu, won the silver medal in the BIOL 20th International Prize for organic olive oil. Pelin is the princess of olive groves in Urla, but her products from Ayerya Organic Farm have a wide range; her award-winning produce is available in fine delicatessens and stores like Eataly in Istanbul.

Cork of the Week
Normally, artichokes are very hard to match with wine as they contain cynarine, which creates an odd sweetish taste on the tongue when followed by water and turns bitter if followed by wine. I love both wine and artichokes, so I usually have a steely dry white with my royal globe and enjoy the sweetish bitterness on my tongue. Urla is also a great destination for wine lovers. The region, with a unique microclimate created by cool breezes from the sea, also offers a few of the best corks of Turkey. The recent boutique wineries sprouting up in Urla are like little princedoms, each hiding their own treasures in their wine cellars. It all started with Urla Winery and Urlice, followed by the USCA, MMG and Mozaik wineries, and all five wineries are now taking the lead in a project titled Urla Bağ Rotası/Urla Wine Route, soon to be joined by other wineries. Follow them and be the first ones to discover the lovely wines of Urla.

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Mysterious golden ball

My napkin was gently folded like a bundle. As I cradled it in my palms I felt the warmth inside. It was as if it were still sizzling in deep oil. As I unfolded the layers of linen, I noticed that my golden fried ball was slightly pointed on one end. That made me curious about the cook; it was surely a clue about his home country. 

The folded napkin surprise was a complimentary gesture by Sebastiano Spriveri, chef at the Four Seasons Bosphorus, Istanbul. I knew that he was of Sicilian origin, but the particular shape of that wonderful fried rice ball was telling me that he must be from southern or eastern Sicily. Fried rice balls are called arancini, coming from arancia, the word for orange in Italian, meaning little oranges. They are mostly a bar snack though sometimes also sold in street festivals and are mostly enjoyed freshly fried, piping hot and roughly wrapped in a piece of paper. Practically, they are rice croquettes, usually made from leftover risotto, filled with a choice stuffing. The inside is soft with a rich meat ragù or molten lava-like melting cheese, wonderfully contrasting the crisp outside. They do resemble little oranges, getting their bright orange color from golden frying and the bright yellow of saffron risotto. 

If they have a mozzarella filling, when you split the ball in half, the cheese tends to form long oozing threads between the semi-spheres of the ball, making it look like old-fashioned corded candlestick telephones. They are then called supplì al telefono, a name preferred in Rome. Either as Roman supplì or Sicilian arancini, they are very Italian, but there is a mystery connected to their history. They are close relatives with our “içli köfte,” stuffed meatballs, sharing the same ancestry and the same concept: a stuffing encased within a grain-based outer shell. In our case, the stuffing is more abundant, meatier and saucier, with a much thinner and crispier bulgur shell; whereas in the Italian version, the stuffing is lesser, the rice section thicker and softer, with the crispness only achieved by the bread crumb coating. However, the idea is the same and they are both related to Middle Eastern kibbeh. When one travels more east and south in Sicily, the arancini are no longer orange shaped, but pointed at one end, drastically looking like their Middle Eastern cousins. Actually, they are said to have originated under the Arab influence dating back to the 10th century. Over the centuries they became a part of the Sicilian identity, so much so that they were even featured in Sicilian literature, as the favorite savory snack of the island.

The last of the mystery stories of inspector Montalbano by the famous Sicilian writer Andrea Camilleri is titled “Gli Arancini di Montalbano” (“Montalbano’s Croquettes”), which gives a very long description of how to make the perfect arancini. The inspector is known for having a soft spot for good traditional Sicilian food; in particular, he cannot resist the homemade arancini of his housekeeper, Adelina Cirrinciò. However, her sublime croquettes require two days to make. First, a risotto is made and left to cool, later to be mixed with parmesan and raw eggs. For the filling, a ragù of equal parts pork and veal is slow cooked with onions and tomatoes, plus diced celery, carrots, parsley and basil. A béchamel sauce is also made to bind the filling together. Lastly, young tender peas are boiled to be added to the filling. Meanwhile, the inspector is entangled in problems related with Adelina’s two sons, who were just released from jail and got in trouble again. The making process of the golden fried balls is as exciting (if not more) as the mystery the inspector tries to solve.  

Munching my golden “arancino,” I kept remembering the mysteries of the legendary inspector Montalbano. Inspired by him, I solved my own little mystery, hinted at in the shape of my croquette. I was right; Chef Spriveri was from Noto in the most southeastern corner of Sicily!

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Henna: Its History and Cultural Significance

Above video of mine will show you different designs of henna decorated handsíncluding mine. It is fun, not ritual for me.

Over time, the use of Henna expanded beyond its practical purpose and became deeply rooted in the cultural and social fabric of these regions. It became a symbol of celebration, beauty, and identity, with its intricate designs adorning the hands and feet of both men and women during special occasions and festivals. The art of applying Henna involves creating intricate patterns and designs on the skin using a paste made from the dried leaves of the Henna plant. These designs can range from simple geometric shapes to elaborate motifs inspired by nature, folklore, and religious symbols. The process of applying Henna is often seen as a form of self-expression and creativity, with each design reflecting the individual's personality and style. In Pakistan, India, Africa, and the Middle East, Henna is an integral part of weddings and other joyous celebrations. It is customary for brides to have their hands and feet adorned with Henna designs before their wedding day, symbolizing fertility, love, and good fortune. Similarly, guests and family members also participate in this tradition, creating a sense of unity and joy during these festive occasions. Henna is not only limited to weddings but is also used during religious festivals and ceremonies. In India, for example, it is common for women to apply Henna during Diwali, the festival of lights, as a way to honor the Hindu goddess Lakshmi and bring prosperity and good luck into their homes. In the Middle East, Henna is often applied during Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha, marking the end of Ramadan and the celebration of sacrifice, respectively. Beyond its cultural significance, Henna has also gained popularity as a form of body art and temporary tattooing in many parts of the world. Its natural and temporary nature makes it an appealing alternative to permanent tattoos, allowing individuals to experiment with different designs and styles without the commitment. Henna artists have emerged as skilled professionals, showcasing their talent and creativity through their intricate and mesmerizing designs. Despite its ancient origins, the tradition of Henna continues to thrive and evolve in the modern world. It has become a global phenomenon, with Henna artists and enthusiasts from various cultures and backgrounds coming together to celebrate and appreciate this beautiful art form. Whether it is used for cultural practices, personal expression, or simply as a form of adornment, Henna remains a timeless tradition that connects people across borders and generations.

Rite of Passage in the Modern World

Newer,more commercial rite of passage has been developed by the modern western societies,such as the prom to mark teenagers coming of age.The prom is a formal dance held at the end of the final academic year in high school.The boys usually wear a dinner jackets and a bow tie and the girls wear formal gowns or dresses and carry a corsage of flowers.The prom originated in the USA and Canada but recently has become increasingly popular in the UK and Australia as well.